Meet the Parenting / Chinuch / Child Safety Forum Leader
Rabbi Yakov Horowitz
Rabbi Yakov Horowitz, Founding Dean of Monsey’s Yeshiva Darchei Noam and Director of The Center for Jewish Family Life, conducts child abuse prevention and parenting workshops internationally. He’s the author of two books, published the landmark children’s personal safety picture...
unfortunately you can’t “get your kid” to go to shul (just like we can’t force them to do anything – most forced behaviors don’t last). He has to want to go. With that in mind, find out why he doesn’t want to go to shul and see if you can address the issues.
You might not be able to address all of them, but your genuine effort will show you son that you care about him for his own sake. He may not start going to shul regularly, but he’ll know that his concerns are important to you.
Davening too long or too loud? – find a shul that has a faster minyan or have him come only to the mandatory parts of davening (specifics should be discussed with a Rav); or find a shul where he can walk out once in a while; or has a freedom to walk along the back wall (where he won’t bother people).
Has hard time waking up? Find a later minyan; help with creating better bed/wake-up routines.
Keep in mind that plenty adults have hard time with making it to shul on time; and that your son faces unique challenges because of his ADHD.